Friday, 29 June 2007

To me, Old Age is always Fifteen Years older than I am.

THE other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was taken aback, for I do not think of myself as old. Upon seeing my reaction, she was immediately embarrassed, but I explained that it was an interesting question, and I would ponder it, and let her know.

Old Age, I decided, is a gift.

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old Geezer that lives in my mirror (who looks like my grandfather), but I don't agonize over those things for long.
I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cake or cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement frog that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant. I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.
Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 a.m. and sleep until noon ?
I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 50's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will.

I will walk the beach in swim shorts that are stretched over my body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when a beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turn grey, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.
So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. I am totally pleased for what it has been and what I hope it will continue to be with my loving wife and best friend. I shall drink scotch when ever I feel like it, and I shall eat dessert every single day. So there you have it. Vest.

14 comments:

Vest said...

Happy Birthday David- #3 son, 48 today.

JD's Rose said...

That was a beautiful post...

xxx

Anonymous said...

Oh Shit
i wish i was as old as VEST



hahahahahaha
just kidding

Anonymous said...

Happy bday David
dont lissen to your old man
he fibs a lott

actually he wishes he was as young as me

Anonymous said...

There`s one way to find out if a man is honest - ask him.

If he says, ``Yes,`` you know he is a crook.


More quotes from Groucho Marx

Son of Vest no 5 said...

Happy Birthday David

Anonymous said...

the only cure for old age is to die young


i'd rather be old

Anonymous said...

“SOON, THROUGH UNIVERSAL SUNDAY LAWS, IT WILL BE A CRIME TO OBEY GOD.”
"IF YE LOVE ME, KEEP MY COMMANDMENTS." JOHN 14:15.
“THE SABBATH WILL BE THE TEST OF LOYALITY TO GOD-A SIGN BETWEEN HIM AND HIS CHILDREN.”
“THE CREATOR SEEKS YOUR WORSHIP ON THIS HOLY SABBATH DAY, MAN HAS CHOSEN TO MAKE SUNDAY HOLY, WILL YOU CHOOSE TO OBEY GOD OR MAN? THE BIBLE ANSWERS THIS FOR US: WE OUGHT TO OBEY GOD RATHER THAN MEN (ACTS 5:29).“

Vest said...

This comment was extracted from the daily flute blog posted earlier this month.

Kim said...
Religion is just a belief system. However some people are so convinced by their beliefs they actually think that it is appropriate to impose their point of view on those of us who don’t subscribe to them. Which actually makes me quite angry.

People like myself do understand, we just don’t agree!!!

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Jun 22nd, 2007 at 11:29 pm

9 vest said...
Read my post 26 June 2007. ‘What the Church and Faith Industry doesn’t want you to know’.

Anonymous said...

India is a young cuntry
i am 56- which means OLD

the benefits to me:
sweet young things offer me their seat on the bus

when i stand i pretend to doze off and lean on the sweet young things shoulder

she dont mind
she call me chacha

she believes i am harmless
hehehe

Anonymous said...

we love u VEST
we dont want u to go to hell


repent and be saved

Vest said...

I am beginning to believe that most people in India have a similar name and also cannot spell the word 'country'.

amy...swansea. said...

Vesty, inside every older person is a younger person wondering what happened

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