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And so it is Christmas

      I woke this Christmas morn as is becoming the norm, that is a dash to the loo - wash and then un-fuddle my noddle before I approach the the kitchen where my son Chris has resolved the overnight chaos, dare I have my brekky now and spoil the scene, Chris has disappeared into his bedroom so I indulge in a bowl of cereal  and a cuppa and the prepare today's dinner .. today's menu take it or leave it was Roast Chook - Ham plus Broad beans,  Peas, Brussels sprouts  and roast potatoes With RBG. There were no complaints and the Xmas pud was put on hold until a gap could be found to accommodate it..      Christmas has been painful this year without Rosemary and the tissue box is getting many a visit. Chris slept through part of the day then watched five minutes of TV with me ( Andrew Reau ? and his London Christmas show) then Minnie our female Cat joined me, on my lap, it would seem Minnie is the recipient of 80% of my total daily conversation, yes it beggars belief.       
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Goodbye Dear Rosemary. (Final)

      It was around 3 pm Wednesday March 8 That Rosemary returned from 'Day Care', she looked fine and healthy and bubbly and gave our son  Christopher a hug and a kiss which was Rosemary all over, but in the excitement she fell and hit the carpeted floor hard and complained of a pain in her right leg .and failed to rise up.       An ambulance was called, then after pain reducing injections paramedics took Rosemary to John Hunter Hospital near Newcastle NSW. Chris our eldest son followed and later returned with news that Rosemary was to have replacement surgery the following day.       Rosemary at that point in time was a physically healthy 59 kilos ,165 cm tall and a Aus size 12. with an astounding fresh complexion for her 82 years - together with a happy and cheerful loving disposition  despite the slight dementia problem which was her worst worry.       At 7 pm the following day Chris and I visited Rosemary at J H Hospital She was awake and vaguely responding to our ques


      Rosemary was Born in Portsmouth England on the 5th of July 1934. her Mother and father Louise and William Cox. Rosemary had a difficult early life due to a speech difficulty which fortunately was corrected after many hospital visits - and with perseverance  from Rosemary herself she was able to catch up on her schooling which had suffered due to the previous speech impairment.       Rosemary was the younger of five siblings Percy, Marjorie and Audrey, and Stanley who remains as sole survivor.       I ,  Dad.  First met Rosemary at a dance In Portsmouth that she was attending with her sister Audrey. late November 1951.  Rosemary was a pretty young lady at seventeen years of age and I was 24, She remarked to Audrey her sister; that he is nice but old. however, I was successful in dating her the following evening  unchaperoned.       I , DAD, Was stationed in the Portsmouth Naval Barracks awaiting a ship or some perilous assignment which eventually sent me packing to Hong Kong

Goodbye dear Rosemary (3)

With love from Rosemary. There is a video of Rosemary being interviewed by her son Chris Some of her words a not normally used in polite company, . possibly because of her Dementia .

Goodbye Dear Rosemary (2) Funeral details.

     To bring you up-to-date and FYI. Below is my draft for the obituary to go into the Daily Telegraph this Saturday. BOWYER Rosemary Joan nee Cox, age 82 - 5/07/1934-3/05/2017, Gorokan NSW, previously of Budgewoi NSW, born in Portsmouth, England. Wife and best friend of Leslie John Bowyer (age 90) for 63 years. A beautiful, loving lady who will be sorely missed. Daughter of William (deceased) and Louise (deceased). Sister of Marjorie (deceased), Percival (deceased), Audrey (deceased) and Stanley. Mother of Christopher, Anthony, David, Andrew and Timothy. Grandmother of Kylie, Nicole, Dylan, Bianca, Aleisha, Charlotte, Tamara and Jacinta. Great grandmother of Paige, Brianna, Braydon, Grace, Ollie, Ruby Rose, Flynn (deceased), Isla (deceased), Teddy and Harlow. Mother-in-law to Ruth, Karen, Suzanne, Rebekah, Julie W, Amanda, Lisa, Samantha and Julie B. A graveside committal service will be held at Noraville Cemetery, 35 Wilfred Barrett Drive, Noraville NSW on Thursday 11 May

Goodbye Dear ROSEMARY.

Rosemary my dear wife and best friend passed away at around seven PM today, two hours ago. More later.

The 'TOO HARD' Basket.

       My visits to the local hospital; a short 4 minute drive and a brisk hundred metre trot to the single occupancy ward where my wife Rosemary is incarcerated usually ends on a note of complete frustration. Apart from the failure to communicate with Rosemary which is difficult due to her dementia.        It would seem  the staff who deliver her meals have lost the plot and offer her meals that she cannot  handle due to the loss of her lower denture at the previous hospital and from my observations 99 % of her meals go to waste, a couple of spoons of soft desert is the usual intake..        I have noticed several hospital staff attempting to feed Rosemary  but give up all too soon, I doubt if they have the expertise required which is obviously an essential part  of their employment.       Rosemary is on a drip containing some mysterious ingredient which is helping in someway to sustain life, however, she has lost so much weight she is beginning to appear like a 'Belson' in

Rosemary up and moving.

 Not a lot of info on Rosemary  now recovering slowly from her Hip OP. Rosemary has been up and walking with assistance, however her recovery would be advanced if she ate better and tried a little harder to respond to that which would help her recovery, her dementia is the root cause  and despite separate daily visits by  Chris and myself and other family members  very little is  getting through to Rosemary her main utterance's border on abuse , mostly " Go away -leave me alone". Today the Hospital staff will dress  her in  her street clothing  hopefully trying to get her back to a less horizontal bed bound lifestyle, we can only hope she will respond. Thank you all for your best wishes  for her recovery. Vest ..... back soon.

Rosemary recovering.

My visit to Rosemary this afternoon was more rewarding than usual, she seemed much brighter and talkative, however, she is still not eating as well as she should, her main meals are left mostly untouched, but today with the help of a pretty young nurse,  Rosemary ate most of her desert but still declined the main meal. Maybe with a little more perseverance will see Rosemary back to eating normally once more, The Company Director of  Hawksbury cleaning and, "Bowyer's' Carpet laying and cleaning, visited his mum Rosemary with his lovely wife Samantha and beautiful daughter Charlotte. Thank you Andrew..Our other sons and their families  have used FACE  BOOK  which is our son Christopher's media thingy as mentioned earlier I have enough on my plate without the agonies of F B, Warning this may offend, The first explanation of Face Book Wednesday, 21 November 2007 Facebook makes me Suicidal...JAY writes on 'Kill the Goat'...The best explanation of faceboo

Face Book,. A No goer, But thanks all the same.

 For  FACE BOOKERS                                                                                                                                                                                       eI You  may be aware I have not not posted much over the past three months and this was due to  moving to a new residence and being off line and otherwise busy with packing and unpacking  plus now we have the additional problem with hospital visits and associated problems of Rosemary's  upper limb fracture and future rehabilitation. however, recently Christopher our eldest took it upon himself to promote a Face Book Thingy on my behalf and without consultation, he being aware of the restrictions within my life style should not have done so without my consent which is fairly obvious  a 'No' thank you'. Chris will be aware of this by now and hopefully will be able to rectify his work and inform his followers ? This is not a stab at Face Booker's  they have their own idi


Not impressed with John Hunter Hospital. They have lost Mum's bottom denture, don't make sure she has at least her top denture in when served meals, think that broccoli and carrots are soft food and give Mum a cup of hot water, tea bag and milk and expect her to be able to make her own tea. Duh! In addition, the unit manager Glenda comes across as an unbending hard case with tunnel vision. She gives not an iota of satisfaction that my concerns are being met - Even when things are obviously not! Further, she told me yesterday that Mum would be transferred to Wyong Hospital ASAP. However, I spoke to Wyong Hospital this morning and they said they have no record of a transfer request. When I told Glenda about this, she said no, a transfer request has definitely been made. Argh.   Posted by Chris B. son of Vest.

Back again, plus ' oh no"

      Yes I am back, but for how often is more than a guess. Our new residence a Large four bed two B/r and large garage  lge kitch two reception a large garden in two parts with a 40 x 25 patio on one level is much better than our previous home, with plus A/C and overhead fans.      I am not getting out much lately, mainly driving to the shops is my lot. Rosemary goes to care three days a week , which allows Chris our son and myself time to ourselves without constant interruptions., Rosemary's dementia is a problem but fortunately rosemary hasn't been walkabout for a while now that we have a secure perimeter. .     I become exhausted fairly quickly and limit my activities to moderate exercise plus I still have a small degree of pain due to a recent procedure in my nether regions.        We also have a Cleaning lady for two hours weekly and a gardener who averages one hour weekly < Rosemary has a lady who shower's her Three times each week and I do it in between when

Perfect English.

On a train from London to Manchester, an American was berating the Englishman sitting across from him in the compartment. "The trouble with you English is that you are too stuffy.  You set yourselves apart too much.  You think your stiff upper lip makes you above the rest of us.  Look at me . . .   I'm me!  I have a little Italian in me, a bit of Greek blood, a little Irish and some Spanish blood.   What do you say to that?" The Englishman lowered his newspaper, looks over his glasses and replied: "How very sporting of your mother!" -------------------------------------------------. Getting there, will post soon.

The British Royal Navy News.

Royal Navy News The Royal Navy is very proud to announce its new fleet of Type 45 destroyers. Having initially named the first two ships HMS Daring and HMS Dauntless, the Naming Commi Royal Navy News The Royal Navy is very proud to announce its new fleet of Type 45 destroyers. Having initially named the first two ships HMS Daring and HMS Dauntless, the Naming Committee has, after intensive pressure from Brussels , renamed them HMS Cautious and HMS Prudence. The next five ships are to be HMS Empathy, HMS Circumspect, HMS Nervous, HMS Timorous and HMS Apologist. Costing £850 million each, they comply with the very latest employment, equality, health & safety and human rights laws. The Royal Navy fully expects any future enemy to be jolly decent and to comply with the same high standards of behaviour. The new user-friendly crow's nest has excellent wheelchair access. Live ammunition has been replaced with paintballs to reduce the risk of

I am back on line.

I shall not be posting for a while as there is so much more to do to settle in although finding a home for a half a garage full of miscellaneous  clutter will take time plus I have a visit to the local hospital planned for Thursday 11. I have been very poorly since the move - all due to the extra bodily activity which in turn has taken away about eight kilos - but as there are no stairs to climb I expect it will eventually return  Thank you all for your recent greetings,  my mailing address remains the same IE the PO box Back soon ....Vest

I am back again.