TRADITION DICTATES THAT WOMEN CAN ASK MEN TO MARRY THEM ON FEBRUARY 29 IN A LEAP YEAR. A TRIUMPH FOR EQUALITY – OR A RECIPE FOR DISASTER?
Amy say's: YES.
When I was a little girl, I read Snow White and dreamed that one day I too would be kissed by a handsome prince and awake to a proposal of marriage and happily-ever-after.
Then I grew up and got real. What if the prince had commitment problems or was saving up to buy a property? As a passive woman who left her destiny up to fate, poor Snow White would have suffocated in her glass coffin or had to shack up permanently with the seven dwarves.
I don’t think there is anything desperate or emasculating about women proposing to men. I feel that if I ever meet Mr Right and want to pop the question, I’ll be able to hand him a ring box without him handing me his testicles. Then again, I’ve never been a girl who’s had the wedding dress picked out before the first-date appetisers arrive.
Call me crazy, but I think that if I’m lucky enough to find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with, the wedding process will be secondary.
I talk from experience as I’ve had a few marriage proposals. One boyfriend flew me to Paris, where he presented me with a huge diamond ring on a bed strewn with rose petals. Unfortunately, he was also insane. The setting was picture-perfect but the marriage would have been a total disaster.
There are probably men who would label a girl who takes a chance and pops the question as desperate. But I wouldn’t want to marry a small-minded man like that anyway.
I’m not sure that I would actually propose marriage myself, because I love surprises. But I’m not ruling anything out. If my crazy, roller-coaster love life has taught me anything, it’s to expect the unexpected. Hopefully the man of my dreams will have a similar life philosophy.
I’ve come a long way since I was the starry-eyed little girl eagerly devouring fairy tales. When I meet Mr Right I hope the idea of spending our lives together will evolve through discussion before either of us goes down on one knee. Especially if I’m wearing stilettos!”
Vest, says NO
Even though February 29 is just one day out of 1,461, it’s a dangerous precedent to set. If you’re considering asking your man to marry you in a leap year let me give you a word of advice: DON’T.
To start with, there is very little left that is solely ‘man’s work’.
There are women builders, women priests, women generals… before long I expect that science will make it possible for women to become sperm donors too, smashing down the last door that stands between men and obsolescence.
So as a courtesy, I ask you to leave us one last tradition: the act of question-popping.
And there’s a more pressing reason why you should not ask. After a certain period of time, men in long-term relationships simply stop listening to their girlfriends’ questions.
In the interest of a bit of peace and quiet, men learn to say ‘yes dear’, regardless of what is being asked. For example:
Her: Have you taken out the rubbish?Him: Yes dear.Her: Will you clean my car this weekend?Him: Yes dear.Her: Do you think Freud was right when he said that conscience is the internal perception of the rejection of a particular wish operating within us?Him: Yes dear.
These men have no idea what they’re agreeing to. They just want to watch the football/go to the pub/finish reading the newspaper. In peace. Add ‘will you marry me?’ to women’s repertoire of questions and you risk relationship carnage.
Men will find themselves facing a lifetime of commitment with no way out and no idea how they got there. They will feel trapped, resentful and confused, and that’s no way to start a life together.
If your boyfriend hasn’t asked you to marry him, it’s not because he’s lost the power of speech or he’s waiting for the price of diamonds to drop or because you’re so beautiful he gets tongue-tied whenever he looks at you.
It’s because he’s simply not sure he wants to marry you. I’m not saying he doesn’t want to marry you ever. I’m not saying it hasn’t crossed his mind. I’m just saying that, at the moment, he’s not sure.
So save yourself the embarrassment and fight the urge to propose to your boyfriend at any time.
Friday, 20 November 2009
Should a Woman cast aside tradition and Propose to the Man in her life.
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To advise that Vest (Les Bowyer) passed away this morning. Regards, Chris (Son).
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how did it happen with Rose?
I bet u used all the tricks in the book
Jimmy: We met each other on a Nudist Beach, where she fell in love with me at first sight.
I wouldn't bother asking a man to marry me ... it is all a "conditioning" joke perpetrated on women since time began. They are fed a Fairy Story from the moment they are born and the inevitable happens. No such Prince Charming exists and all men have feet of clay ... why bother! Men and women should stay far apart for the good of both sexes. Lol!
Maybe not all of us ladies are awaiting a proposal of marriage, maybe we're happy just as we are and a proposal might put us in a compromising situation that we don't want to be in.
Maybe some of us ladies are not waiting for a marriage proposal, maybe we're happy the way things are, perhaps we tried it once and didn't like it. Having a marriage proposal might put some of us in a compomising position that we don't want to be in.
where is every body?
I am told you are the man to ask: I am 36 and have a lover that is 59....how long can i expect the sex life to last?
I have heard you wrote a book. Is it very popular?
a marriage proposal might put some of us in a compomising position
wat u mean?
Managing to survive these tough economic times!
WALLY, A British lawyer working abroad wrote to his American wife...
DEAR Sandra Darling,
I can't send you my salary this month because the global market crises has affected my company's performance, so I am sending 100 kisses. You are my sweetheart, please adjust.
Your loving husband,
His wife replied...
Thanks for the 100 kisses,
Below is the list of expenses I paid with the Kisses...:
1. The Milk man agreed on 2 kisses for one month's milk.
2. The electricity man agreed not to disconnect only after 7 kisses.
3. Your landlord VEST comes every day to take 2 or 3 kisses instead of the monthly rent.
4. Supermarket owner Jaswant Singh did not accept kisses only, so I gave him other items, I hope you understand..
5. Miscellanoeous expenses 40 kisses.
Please don't worry about me, I still have a balance of 35 kisses and I hope I can survive the month using this balance...
Your Sweet Heart,
Book, verry popular ?
some pages sure are ...
How he met Rose
how he kept on pursuing her, even though she was madly in love with an Indian guy in India
how he lost his virginity
to a Sardar, a cabbie
the bloke had no money to pay the cabbie
I am back. As the result of a thunder storm last Friday all our communications systems were wiped out, the lightening strike and simultaneous thunder clap was reminicent of a twin engined Betty 'Kamikaze' hitting the superstructure. Rosemary was terrified.
Good thing I was wearing brown trousers at the time.
Jimmy, is it true you won your brain at a meat raffle?
Rosemary was terrified.
Good thing I was wearing brown trousers at the time. ??
so the PEE stains wont show?
u r funny
u see all men
the way u see your man
Christine: Being aware of your situation, the only answer is 'You and 'S' are doing fine.Congrats.
Anonymous 36 please tell me if you are M or F, or Gay. There will be a charge for the consultation.
Anon: About my book. Ask Jimmy, I made him buy six copies, or I would have unmasked his crimminal activities with the Bombay (Mumbai) Mafia.
Tomorrow, Thanksgiving Day, Americans across the country will sit down together, count our blessings, and give thanks for our families and our loved ones.
American families reflect the diversity of this great nation. No two are exactly alike, but there is a common thread they each share.
Our families are bound together through times of joy and times of grief. They shape us, support us, instill the values that guide us as individuals, and make possible all that we achieve.
So tomorrow, I'll be giving thanks for my family -- for all the wisdom, support, and love they have brought into my life.
But tomorrow is also a day to remember those who cannot sit down to break bread with those they love.
The soldier overseas holding down a lonely post and missing his kids. The sailor who left her home to serve a higher calling. The folks who must spend tomorrow apart from their families to work a second job, so they can keep food on the table or send a child to school.
We are grateful beyond words for the service and hard work of so many Americans who make our country great through their sacrifice. And this year, we know that far too many face a daily struggle that puts the comfort and security we all deserve painfully out of reach.
So when we gather tomorrow, let us also use the occasion to renew our commitment to building a more peaceful and prosperous future that every American family can enjoy.
It seems like a lifetime ago that a crowd met on a frigid February morning in Springfield, Illinois to set out on an improbable course to change our nation.
In the years since, Michelle and I have been blessed with the support and friendship of the millions of Americans who have come together to form this ongoing movement for change.
You have been there through victories and setbacks. You have given of yourselves beyond measure. You have enabled all that we have accomplished -- and you have had the courage to dream yet bigger dreams for what we can still achieve.
So in this season of thanks giving, I want to take a moment to express my gratitude to you, and my anticipation of the brighter future we are creating together.
With warmest wishes for a happy holiday season from my family to yours,
- President Barack Obama
I am a 36 year old female and he is a 59 year old male.
Hmmmm what kind of charge??
hey girl I am 59 too
I am not sure about that hunny
but I hope it will last longer than VEST
for him its only tri weekly
but my uncle Diago was active at 99
real active I am told
r u an atheist too Aggie?
Anonymous 36 with Lover 59:
Fortunately for you both the cost is minimal, you will be expected to purchase one book of mine to offset expenses incurred by 'Bruce'; who is our hands on sex technician whose practical assessment of both of you will be no less joyful than others who have shared an assessment by 'Bruce'
Adam and Eve
created by God
for one another
but I messed up
I tot Maria was my EVE
assessment by 'Bruce' ???
I asked Rose too to confirm
I am being mis quoted
DUBAI &80 bn in DEBT
Indians returning home in large numbers
wats happened to DAILYGAGGLE News
u guys are sleeping
Anon 36, send details of your address by email. Bruce is on standby and awaiting your instructions.
Bruce who's Bruce?
So just what is this book about? N how much? (poor single mom here)
Suppose I should comment on original post.....I think the man should do the proposing, if it must be done. Got to keep romance alive some how. Personally I don't see the point of marriage to begin with. Is just so the church and government can say you are together.
Nice Thanksgiving letter. ;)
he has had a lousy day
Anon 36 say Hi to WALLY
and give him a hugg and a smile
today his wife left him for a younger guy in India
his room cot fire
he lost his entire PORN collection
i live in the state of illinois, usa
need more details then that?
mujhe aisa lagta hai
ki woh mujhe janti hain
its Hindi Wally
he is not talking about u ..
why WALLYs wife left him
Wally had a drink too much
when he got home, he tried to get Sandy his wife to chuckle
he set out to tell a joke
Wally: the best years of my life were spent in the arms of another mans wife .....
and then poor Wally forgot the Punch line
Wally: hic, hic, hic ...
his wife Sandy banged his head with the nearest thing she cud find ...
the glass flower vase
the roses fell on his head
it was funny and sad
Wally had to be rushed to the hospital with a bleeding head and the yellow roses had turned red
the Kerala nurses giggled ....
when they saw him
they probably tot he is gay
he was to have said
.. .. mom
WALLY heard the joke from me
but his copy paste didnt work
Anon 36: Living in the State of Illinois. Yes more details please.
Contact details such as Email & blog address.
Ok am working on setting up a blog, still trying to figure out all the settings.
aka anon 36
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